The Difference Between a Dream and a Goal



A dream is wish or want that you have in the back of your mind that says “would be nice” if it happened.  You may dream about owning a beach house or owning a little bakery or coffee shop. You think about it from time to time or imagine it will be yours “after” you live the life you currently have.  Perhaps you are waiting for children to grow up or a little more financial security.


A goal is also a dream but with a very different attitude about how it is going to come into existence.  A goal has a map, time line, and an action plan.  Without putting it on paper, with details or steps of action, nothing happens.  It’s like saying you want to drive to California, and just get in the car and start driving without knowing where to turn or when you will arrive. 


Unfortunately, we can’t have it both ways.  We can’t have the security (true or imagined) of our current life and live another life at the same time.  One door closes and another opens.  You can’t live in Kansas and be near your friends and family, with your “safety net” job/relationship/home/community AND live at the beach in a relaxed and carefree environment.  You must show the Universe that you are serious about your new life and start taking steps to move in that direction.  ASK for divine intervention. BELIEVE that you deserve the happiness you seek and RECEIVE opportunities that come to you by being aware and taking action.


Often one door closes before we are “ready.”  Deep down we are asking for change, but want it to come in a specific way,  Losing a job/partner/house/money/good health are all ways that change is forced on us. These are all wake-up calls.  We are on this earth to grow, evolve, experience, not just to get by. We are here to experience joy, laughter, wonder and newness.  Mediocrity and repetitiveness are the death of our spirit. 


Stop “Dreaming” and Starting Taking Action.  You don’t have to have everything planned out but you must start moving.  Opportunities will come and you will be able to say YES. It works the opposite of what we think.  Don’t wait for everything to be in place because it never will be. Life changes day by day, so keep it light and stay focused on the outcome, not on the details.


And don’t forget the secret weapon that comes with “putting it out there.”  The Universe! The Universe wants you to succeed.  It wants to put people, places and events into action to help you achieve your goals.  But the Universe only knows what you know.  If you are not clear and active, It doesn’t know how to help you!  Watching all the magical moments that are created by the Universe is the most fun game in the world.  None of it is my luck or happenstance.  You and Universe have co-created all your good fortune.  Go and live life to the fullest.  Take a chance. Believe!  Then sit back and watch the magic.



4 Responses to The Difference Between a Dream and a Goal

  1. Kelley says:

    Hi Barbara, I read your book a while back and I’m getting ready to read it again. It’s a wonderful guideline for creating the life you want and succeeding. You truly changed how I’ve come to view my own life and I’m now working towards creating a better, more fulfilling life for myself. I can only say thank you. Your book inspired me during a dark time in my life and as I work towards my goals I feel more hopeful everyday that I can have the life I want. Best regards, Kelley

    • Barbara says:

      Thank you Kelley! Your kind words mean so much to me! We all need support and inspiration to keep moving in the direction of our dreams. Put some little sticky notes on your mirror to help remind you where you are going. My favorites are “I am in the right place at the right time..All good things are coming to me now…I am open eager to see what comes next.” Also, “I am a child of the Universe and abundance is my birthright” AND “Ask, Believe, Receive.” Spend as much time as you can outside in nature- listening, smelling, feeling, breathing. It always makes me feel calm and helps me listen to my inner voice.

  2. Daniel Suh says:

    I came across your website and wanted to say I admire your boldness and passion. I am in a position in life where I am also thinking about traveling across the world or simply following your footsteps. It’s time I stop dreaming and take action.

    • Barbara says:

      Happy to help you in anyway. Check out my How to Quit Your Life,, 10 step guide. Just go to FB, Living Without Reservations and click “like.” Then download the 25 page free booklet.

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